My fiend shared an interesting article: http://www.raptitude.com/2017/03/only-thing-get-good-at/
Good interesting article…Stoicism, when I first knew about it, I felt it would lead to some bad consequences like make people numb, insensitive, feels no empathy, no hospitality or love… (By the way, Malcom Gradwell in his book, “David AND Gladiator —- underdogs, misfits, and the art of battling giants” has some interesting researches on the “British stoicism virtue” often pictured as a good example in the period of WWII that London was bombarded by the Nazi Germany – hint, it had nothing to do with the so called peculiar British people’s Stoicism character at all ).
Often, ideas from many different philosophies and religions have many parallels. Some examples in the article: One.Buddhism says we are not happy because we are trying to grasp more than we actually can control. —-Similarity to Stoicism aside, in Christianity there is also the teaching “don’t rely on yourself but Him”. Two. Replace all the instance of the plural “gods” with singular “God”, one can still perfectly understand the main points this article conveys.
About the notion : “We shouldn’t try to be happy by trying to gain control everything”. The truth is: if one only knows philosophy and has vast knowledge, all the things he knows will still leave the human heart and love untouched. Of course, the magical of life is in the experience. That’s why the author said: in the past, though he was sold by the idea for years but practiced badly. I think, now if he really seriously try to practice well, what do you think he will trying to do? He will try to identify the scope of the first bin (things that he can control). This is a dynamic process, because at different life stage or situation, the size of the bin changes: when you are little, you probably has little things you can control, most likely only limited to move your body parts (provided you are biologically healthy ); when you are grew, you can control over your income (money); when you first join the workforce, there are little things you can control in your company; when you are a manager, suddenly you have more things you can control (alone comes some responsibility). When your circumstance changes, the things you can control changes : when you are in a small company you are likely can control more things than you could when you are in a bigger company (in a general sense, there will be for sure some particularities ).
Nobody in a good sense will think he can actually control everything. But, again, generally speaking, human beings tend to be happier as the things we can control grows. I emphasized “generally speak” because that, the key is: you have the “right things” you can control and practicing well. In this regard, there are few things we should focus on; and all of them should concerning the heart of the person and “Love”—-the core gospel of authentic Scripture teaching. Through these things, we can let go of things and gain control of things; we come and go, with peace and happiness.